The blog.
One Small Action Before January
December doesn’t have to be a sprint or a full reset. Choose one nervous-system-safe action, finish it, and walk into January with evidence — not pressure.
The Sneaky Reason You Never Feel “Good Enough” After You Improve
You did the thing and your brain still moved the bar? That’s standard/hedonic adaptation. Name it, lock in the win, and let your progress actually count.
You Don’t Have to Believe Every Thought to Act on Your Values
Thoughts will stay noisy. ACT-style noticing, naming, and choosing lets you move toward what matters anyway — even with perfectionism in the room.
Self-Compassion Isn’t Lazy — It’s How You Stay in the Game
Self-criticism creates shutdown, not motivation. Using Dr Kristin Neff’s 3-part framework, here’s how to respond kindly and still move forward.
The Two Kinds of Perfectionism (and Why One Silences You)
Not all perfectionism is bad. Here’s the difference between growth-supportive and self-silencing perfectionism — and how to switch back to the helpful kind.
Is It Really Failing… or Is Your Brain Just Being Dramatic?
A gentle guide to 3 common cognitive distortions — all-or-nothing thinking, mental filters, and disqualifying the positive — and how they keep perfectionism and low motivation alive.
The Science of Meditation (and Why You Still Don’t Do It)
Real meditation feels ordinary—more like brushing your teeth than having revelations. Over time, it teaches attention to come back and helps the body settle. If you’ve avoided the cushion, it’s not a character flaw; it’s friction and myths. Here’s a softer way to begin that your nervous system can accept.
Gentle Spring Audit: A Soft Seasonal Reset
Spring can bring fresh energy—and pressure. This gentle spring audit reframes the season with three simple moves: Keep, Begin, Let Go. Paired with soft boundaries, it becomes a practical, compassionate reset you can maintain on low-energy days and revisit whenever the light changes.